I would like to continue my discussion around choice, with
this particular issue looking at where you may be blocking
yourself with the choices you make. In other words where you
may limit yourself, and your experiences by not being more
conscious to and thorough with what you decide for yourself.
Cross checking to see whether that choice is in fact inline
with what you are wanting.
It
became clearer to me on the weekend that often I can be my
own worst enemy, hand brake, kill-joy. And I am someone who
professes to be an optimistic, go getting person! Hmmmm.
So
where did this timely revelation come from..............?
I was walking around one of my favourite parks in Sydney and
going around the usual ring road I, and others take when we
embark on such a mission. And as I always do, I looked longingly
in towards the undulating interior of the park, thinking both
'one day I must walk through there and investigate thoroughly',
and also, surprisingly to me, 'you can't go in there, if you
are going to do a 'proper' walk you must walk around the ring-road
as everyone always does'!
Now
firstly what's wrong with today and who says that it won't
be a 'proper' walk if I go into the interior? What planet
did that logic come from?
I saw how I was limiting myself from experiencing a more fulfilling
interaction with the delights of nature because of my own
semi-conscious choices. I had imposed certain rules upon myself
that came from only one source - me!!!
So
instead I consciously chose to make my walk one where I followed
every whim of where I felt like exploring, and what a liberating
and enjoyable experience I ended up having, as well as tiring
- it certainly was also, by default, a 'proper' walk.
So
my question to you is where may you be making choices that
are in fact purely self-imposed limitations or rules that
may be preventing you from accessing something you do really
want?
Commonly
we will say to ourselves, or others ' I can't do that', or
'That's not possible'. Says who? More often ourselves, or
another person who whilst having worthy contributions to make
can't really be in a position to truly assess the merits of
our choices unless they have somehow been able to inhabit
our skin, senses and feelings and therefore operate identically
to how we do? Maybe they are in fact the same alien that taught
me my 'park logic'?
When
in your work day and life do you make choices that are actually
self-imposed rules or limitations? When you say you can't
meet with a colleague at a certain time or date, are you booked
up already at that time, or is it because you are actually
'stressed' because they are 'messing' up the order of your
diary; or do you need that time as down-time or for something
else; or do you simply not want to? And any response is OK,
if that is inline with what you truly want. See and own it
for what it is, and then cross check with what you are wanting.
That
is the key, often we make choices for ourselves that aren't
in line with what we really want, with the only person getting
in our way being our self!
So
I invite you to examine the choices you are making for yourself,
and ask yourself 'are they truly inline with what I am wanting?'.
And also 'who says I have to make that particular choice?'
As
always have fun with it and observe and laugh along with (rather
than berate or chastise) yourself if you find things that
are not to your best end. As remember as humans we have a
license to be imperfect — that is part of our 'perfection'.
And within that, it is about owning what is not working for
us, and then taking supportive action to do resolve it.
Take
care and until next time, remember the Power that is YOU!
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